Have You Accepted Your Body?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.)
 QUESTION 13- Have I Accepted My Body?

 

Although this O article is geared to women, today’s question is the first one that I think is really meant to be applied to just women–men care about their looks, but in this society, us ladies are all too vocal about our hangups with our physicality.

 

Last weekend, I attended two book signings, and at one of them, I was introduced to read a section of the author’s book. I read an excerpt that I first published on this blog five years ago about how I tried to emulate the hairstyles and looks of stars in music videos.

 

Over the years, I’ve made peace with my body size and shape. I’m a “pear” and I like it.  Been wanting to do a tummy tuck for a long time (it’s been 11 years since I was pregnant) but everything else is pretty good. Aesthetically, my favorite body part is my lips. Their shape and size are perfect, and are closely related to my speaking talent.

 

If you dislike something about your body, there’s no point in rehashing it or uttering it to yourself or around others. Remember–it may a flaw to you, but to someone else you it might be an asset they wish for.

Are You Paying Enough Attention to the Incredible Things Around You?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.)

QUESTION 12- Am I Paying Enough Attention to the Incredible Things Around Me?

Last summer, I visited a friend who had a  baby girl and was not yet cleared from her doctor to leave the house.  At three weeks old, the precious child slept the entire time I held her.
Then at church this past Sunday, I got a treat when a friend was trying to fish something out of her purse with one hand while holding her 3-month-old in the other. I of course offered to hold her. This angel melted my heart and my daughter’s, who sat beside me. It’s been over 10 years since she was that size.
Time never stops. Do you enjoy your life and the wonders of the world?  How do you slow down and experience the awe of God’s creation in your day-to-day?
 

Driving without music. (I notice different things when I run, but I do have music).

Laughter from a group of 3-year-olds at play.

A nod of acknowledgement with a smile.

A tiny ladybug crawling on a window.

 

No, I admit I don’t take notice of the beauty in our world often enough. Do you?

What Are You Afraid Of?


(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.) 



QUESTION 11- What Am I Afraid Of?

In the past I’ve been afraid of being left out from what was going on with the cool kids. Lately I’ve been afraid that I’m missing out on enjoying my life, if I just base it off of emails of happenings and various Facebook posts.  It’s one of the reasons why so many people get hooked on social media. “FOMO.”

 

But the fear I’m going to address here is literal. You may want to ask yourself this question two or three times each time you answer it to get to the root.

 

What are you afraid of?
But then what are you really afraid of?

 

I love families and I love mine. I don’t want to lose my parents–not so much afraid, because I know someday it will happen–its just that I’m not looking forward to living without them.

 

I hope that I will not be alone when my daughter grows up– there’s no guarantee that I’ll get married again.

 

I’ve been afraid that the one that I care about so much doesn’t really care much about me.

 

Sometimes I think I’m afraid of success. Other times I’m afraid that I’m not as good as others that do what I do. Or that I’ll be overlooked even if I am.


Now that you know what you are afraid of, what are you going to do about it?

 

Are You Helpful?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.)
QUESTION 10- Am I Helpful?
 
Hold me (hand). I am your Care, Safety, Strength, Love, and Help

Photo Credit: International Orthodox Christian Charities (IOCC)

People always ask me things like, how can I break into technical writing [like me]? Or about my writing process. How I got started homeschooling. How I get my nails to grow so long. What they should know LASIK surgery process and if I’d do it again. How I lost so much weight. How long/fast/much do I run.
 
Often, I will direct them to this blog, because I’m so descriptive in my writing. But everyone doesn’t want to read. Lucky them, because I love to talk, too
 
Sometimes though, I get in my introverted moods where I just don’t want to talk to anyone. Or the “help” being requested is really someone who is capable, but lazy, and wants me to do their work for them. Or, it could be that I feel like I’m repeating myself way too much.
 
I love to learn. I love information, but it’s everywhere. A simple Google search can become overwhelming when you start looking through the results. So I see why it’s easier sometimes to just ask someone who has already done something you’re interested in or trying to do. So don’t be offended if I send you here. It’s just easier for me to save a little energy that way. Overall, I think I’m pretty helpful and I don’t hoard knowledge.
Do you have a hard time asking for–or giving–help when needed?

Running Around and Feeling Helpless

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.) 
QUESTION 9- Am I Helpless? 
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When I was clinically depressed, I felt like it
When my mom had an open heart surgery at age 48 (a surprise, unscheduled event), I felt like it.
 
But thank God, I’m not. I’m not helpless OR hopeless. He is my Helper. 

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Do You Know How to Say No?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.)

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QUESTION 8- Do I Know How to Say No?

No is the first word most of us learn to say. Why then, is it so hard for some of us to place boundaries on our time and current responsibilities? Is it because of other’s perceptions of us and possible judgment? Is it because we truly want to do it all, say Yes on impulse without weighing any pros and cons?

I don’t have a problem overcommitting to things. My mom taught me that when faced with a potentially awkward request that I need to decline, that I should do so without feeling the need to explain. A simple, “No, I’m not going to be able to do that” works. And if the receiver of this message presses on, you repeat yourself politely but firmly. No guilt trips. No explanations.

How do you decline new commitments that you know you don’t really want to can’t carry out? Do you explain yourself or feel guilty afterward?

Do You Say Yes Enough?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article on O magazine. )
QUESTION 7: Do I Say Yes Enough?

This is a good one.

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Do you say Yes too easily, or not enough?

Liz Lamoreux has a 10-day series of emails from called “Yes, This.” Each day she has a thought, story or exercise that encourages you to seize fleeting moments while they are present–encouraging you to be present, in the present.

The deeper question at the root of it all for me is this: What gets in the way of my “Yeses” when I want to do something but can’t? Is a true lack of time? Lack of money? Fear of my ability or an outcome? (Note that I didn’t say fear of failure–I could also be afraid of success.)

The author of today’s essay in O Mag sums it up like this: “There’s something about saying yes right away, without overthinking, that makes me not want to change my mind. Yes propels you forward, cannonballs you into life.”

We’ll talk more about saying Yes to No tomorrow.