This post is a continuation from Part 1, in honor of Unmarried and Single Americans Week. I wrote this last year, but it is previously unpublished. I’ve experienced a relationship since then, and no longer agree with some of the sentiments here, but it’s still good work and may invite your own reflection and introspection. Enjoy.
Holidays are sometimes–but not always–a downer. People enjoy the holidays because they usually get a break from work, and/or they get to hang out and have quality time with family and friends. But sometimes I dread holidays.
Holidays exacerbate the fact that I am alone. Continue reading
In honor of Unmarried and Single Americans Week (Sept. 16-22, 2012), I’d like to talk about a few “singleness” topics this week and share some more of my dating stories and personal musings on singleness.
Source: That Good Hit
I’ve previously discussed my opinion that there’s nothing wrong with being single, but until about two weeks ago, I spent this year being “coupled.” Although my significant other (S.O.) didn’t give me a label to substantiate my role in his life, I can confidently say that we considered each other as S.O.s, and we were exclusive. However, that was a rare abnormality to be part of a couple. I wrote this week’s posts prior to that relationship, from my normal–and current–status as a single, unattached mom. Check out the first installment below, and come back for more tomorrow.
Are You Seeing Anyone?
My girlfriends who are married or in long-term relationships just don’t understand–or they sympathize, but I can tell they don’t wanna hear my stories. My pleas for a listening ear just to vent. They’re having sex on the regular, in love, or both, and they don’t wanna listen to my mess. How dare I rain on their parade!
For Valentine’s Day, I got some chocolate–maybe not the kind I wanted… just kidding. My sister always hooks me up with chocolate and/or flowers. She has a sweet side to her and I can feel the love.
I went to a couple of “Cupid is Stupid” events this past weekend, but on the real, I’m pretty content with being single these days. I hope you don’t feel left out of the V-Day hoopla if you’re single. It’s all good baby!
I just started a channel on YouTube, and in the video below I talk about singleness, whether another person can really “complete” you, and dealing with feelings of discontentment and heartbreak. I’m surprised by how much I said since I had a little tiny note in front of me (I had to make a “Part 2″!). Anyhoo, if you like the content, subscribe to my YouTube channel (and this blog via RSS or email (look to the right for signup)! Thanks.
“Why don’t you have a man—what’s wrong with you?”
If I had a buck for every time someone asked me this, I wouldn’t need investments. A close second is, “Do you ever think you’ll get married again?”
I’m a relatively young, attractive, well-educated, and self-sufficient divorced mother, writer, and speaker. Many of my professional and personal contacts are as proud of me as I am of myself. When men interested in me see this, the most common question they ask is, “Why is a woman as (fill in the positive adjective here) as you single?” As if that means there must be something wrong with me, or that something is wrong with being single. There’s so many ways to answer that oft-asked question.
People have said things to me like, you have everything going for you– a nice house, beautiful daughter, good job, intelligent, pretty, etc…. so why are you single? Why don’t you have a man– what’s wrong with you?
Nothing is wrong with me. God is saving someone for me. Collectively speaking, most of the knuckleheads in my past couldn’t see my true worth, and that is why they are in my past and not my present.