Help Me Help You: Reader Survey

3CZQ87F245Hey there. Yeah, I know, I’m guilty of neglecting this blog :(.

8 years in, and I don’t know what else to say! Actually, I’ve been working diligently on my new podcast and currently creating a couple of new course and campaigns that I will reveal later this fall.

In the meantime, I’d love to get YOUR input.  What should I talk about? What do you need to know? What are you struggling with? If I don’t know, I can’t help you.

Sure, you can let me wing it, but if you have 5 min to spare, you can answer the questions on my new reader survey.  Thank you so much for helping me craft more relevant content for you and the rest of my loyal audience.

Go to Daree’s Survey

The Rights You Didn’t Know You Had to Fight For


Credit: Amanda Pelser,

Did you know that as a parent in the U.S.,you do NOT have the fundamental right to decide what’s best for your children?

Up until I attended a session at the Georgia Homeschool Education Association (GHEA) conference this month, I didn’t know this. The government can at any time decide what’s best for your child, take action now and (maybe) apologize later (1).
In a showing of the movie Overruled, I watched three real cases where parental rights were negated:

  • A cop removed dad from a school when he simply asked for his child to be able to opt out of a program that familiarized/normalized the children in his son’s Kindergarten class to families with two parents of the same sex (2).
  • After they paid for medical treatment, parents were told they could not get the results of the medical results for their 13-year-old son without his consent. (HIPAA backs this.)
  • A 13-year-old boy complained of emotional distress because his parents took him to church three times a week. He was immediately removed from the school where he confided in his guidance counselor, and placed into temporary foster care over the weekend without his parents being notified. Later, a judge told the parents to be careful, respect the child’s wishes, and take him to church no more than once a week, because that was plenty.

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Touching Private Parts

Have you ever been a family gathering and someone told a child to hug someone that they did not want to hug? I’m really sensitive about things like that because I feel like it can open the door for child abuse by teaching children to allow others, especially older children or adults or those “in authority” to touch them when and when it makes them feel uncomfortable. A hug hello or goodbye may be innocent, but what about if the child really doesn’t know or like that person and then it goes further?

if you tell anyone ill kill youWhen K was really small I taught her that no one should be looking at her touching her private parts *unless we are at the doctors office and I am right next to her the whole time. If something like this happens when I’m not around she knows that is ALWAYS ok for her to come to me and tell me what happened, and that she should tell me right away and I will believe her and I will still love her it is not her fault. I have never been sexually abused, but her father was molested as a child and when he told his family members they would not believe him or address it. I learned from him that the pain from those horrific experiences never goes away 100%. It’s 2013 and people still think they can look at a person and tell whether or not they are a child molester. It also seems that people these days still go around with an attitude like “Oh that doesn’t happen anymore” or “That doesn’t happen to anyone that I know.”  Those myths allow pedophilia and sexual assault perpetuate in our society. Continue reading “Touching Private Parts”

Ending the Blame Game: New Book Coming Soon!

ebg-cover-dareeallen-2013In 2011, my cousin asked me if I would write a book that gives black men a voice in relationships and allow them to speak out, uninterrupted.
Ending the Blame Game is compiled from interviews from of educated black men who are single, divorced or remarried with one thing in common: they have experienced single fatherhood and desire to lead a loving black family, and they want to share their voice. Their stories give women insight into the minds of single black fathers who want to be a part of a cohesive family unit, and just want to tell their side of the story. Who says men don’t want to talk? Whether its infidelity, lack of father figures, child support, divorce, breakdown in communication and overall attitudes about the black male-female dynamic, they’ve got it covered.
In their own voices, each single father featured shares and discusses what they perceive as obstacles to healthy, committed relationships; instilling their own confidence as men; ways that black women can be supportive of them; how to foster better communication; and how to create a nurturing environment for healthy relationships. But that’s not the end-all-be all: at the end of each chapter is an expert’s analysis, tips, and suggestions for solutions.
Special thanks to all of my friends who gave me input on various book cover mock-ups last month.  I’ll give you all updates and what to expect over the coming months.

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Thanksgiving, Thanksblessings, and Buy Nothing

Source: Buy Nothing Day UK

You might call the day after Thanksgiving “Black Friday” (I call it my birthday–at least this year). But what you may not know is that it’s also known as International Buy Nothing Day (Nov. 23 – Nov. 24). I want to put this at the forefront of my post today because merchants are going hard starting their Black Friday sales early, and I’ve got a different kind of message post on Black Friday. Continue reading “Thanksgiving, Thanksblessings, and Buy Nothing”

Thanks-and-Giving: It’s Your Voice – Use It

What are your thoughts about tomorrow’s election in the United States? That’s today’s question for #NaBloPoMo on BlogHer.

Unprecendented Stakes

The scrutiny, criticism, and yes, prejudice that President Obama has faced since he campaigned for his first term is at a level unlike any other before him, yet he handles it with grace and integrity. Although my vote is still for Obama, I’m not a straight-down-the-line-Democrat, because no one political party has the same belief system. Although I love God, practice Christianity and I am pro-family values, I have no qualms about my support for our president, even when he supports ideologies that I don’t.

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Black August

The following is a repost of an interview with Kalonji Changa, author of the new book, “How to Build a People’s Army” about Black August. I met him a few months ago at a Feed the People gathering. In addition to founding the Feed the People Movement, he is also the East Coast Committee Organizer for Happily Natural Day, which takes place annually in Richmond, VA and Atlanta, GA and in its 32 year.

It is my pleasure to share this information with all my readers. I hope it will enlighten you as it did me.


Why is there such a thing as a Black August celebration? Where did this tradition come from? When did it start and how was it celebrated originally?

The first thing we would like to state is that we commemorate Black August, not celebrate it.  We don’t want people to think that it is a party or just an event.  Black August is about resistance.  The concept of Black August developed inside the California prisons, under the leadership of men like George Jackson, W.L. Nolan, and Khatari Gaulden, who were all murdered in California prisons.  As taught to us by the OG’s (Original Guerrillas), Black August was a response to the need of Afrikan prisoners to form a principled and effective political unity to combat the racism and genocide against Afrikan people behind the walls.  Black August began in 1979, one year after the murder of Khatari Gaulden.  As part of Black August brothers fasted the days of the assassinations of the comrades (24-hour fast). On the other days, they fasted until sundown. Physical training and education was increased.  As part of our observation and commemoration of Black August we continue that tradition til this very day.  We encourage others who want to observe Black August to work out an exercise routine for each day either individually or in groups and to not use any drugs or alcoholic beverages during the entire month.

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