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Thank God It’s Monday… Tuesday… or ANY day of the week. You don’t have to wait for the weekend to be grateful.

A discussion with a friend inspired this article, who talked about the common statement from folks, “I can’t wait ’til the weekend,” or “TGIF!”  The attitude is often, “I’m going to rest so I can do it all again starting on Monday.” So in essence, you’re giving the best of yourself to someone else all week.

We create the reality that we have. You create situations that don’t improve. You CAN get over some of the barriers and obstacles you see; everything is NOT a result of things occurring outside of yourself.

There’s a difference between a requirement and a self-imposed delay. Is it worth it to pray for God to bring you out of a situation (work or personal), while you let the access to opportunities and resources (which you know He gave you) pass you by? Or worse yet, ignore the opportunities you can create for yourself?

Are you comfortable with your excuses?

Are you happy to see Monday? If not, what are you going to do about it?

I’m Single… And Your Point Is?

“Why don’t you have a man—what’s wrong with you?”

If I had a buck for every time someone asked me this, I wouldn’t need investments. A close second is, “Do you ever think you’ll get married again?”

I’m a relatively young, attractive, well-educated, and self-sufficient divorced mother, writer, and speaker.  Many of my professional and personal contacts are as proud of me as I am of myself.  When men interested in me see this, the most common question they ask is, “Why is a woman as (fill in the positive adjective here) as you single?” As if that means there must be something wrong with me, or that something is wrong with being single. There’s so many ways to answer that oft-asked question.

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Not All Popular Preachers Are Pimpin’

Are you so jaded to think that every preacher on TV is tryin’ to pimp you out of your money or your clothes? [In my Bill Cosby voice] C’mon people!

It annoys me when I read or hear comments about credible people who I have learned from, saying that they are ‘nothing but false preachers.’

Nothing but?!

Is that simple? Can you really discount everything about the person’s message (that’s what nothing but does)? Do you have inside ties or information about this person to back up what you’re saying? Even if you do, one person doesn’t qualify to give the rest–or Christianity–a bad name.

And are tithers really stupid to give their hard-earned money to a preacher? Well I don’t look at like that at all. Do you know the average pastor’s salary? I choose to tithe out of obedience to and faith in God, because I have to answer to Him–not anyone down here.

Now I can agree that there ARE false preachers out there (Matthew 7:15, 1 Timothy 1:3, 4 and chapter 4). But not every preacher on TV is necessarily a ‘prosperity preacher’. There is a balance between teaching people how to live the life Christ died to give them–a more abundant life (John 10:10; 3 John 1:2)–and being meek, humble and holy. Everyone perceives humility and holiness differently, but I don’t think you should totally discredit a preacher because s/he likes nice things. Whose to say those funds came from the church?

I worship in my local community and occasionally watch preachers on TV and read their books. Because I have read the Bible for myself, and continue to study it, I know if someone’s message is coming from God’s heart or from their own personal gospel and opinions. You have to know the Word for yourself before you can discern others’ motives. Please believe it.

What kind of fruit does this person’s ministry (and their life) produce (Luke 6:44; Matthew 21:18-19)? Is the person’s own immediate family on the up and up? Are lives being changed for the better as a result of their efforts? Are people coming to Christ and learning how to live their lives to be more like Him (their character, attitude, and integrity)?

I agree that people in positions of leadership are called to a higher standard (1 Timothy 3), but I say don’t let someone’s bankroll, clothing, or vehicle of choice dissuade you from ministers who are popular. They’re not perfect, and as humans they may stumble, but they’re not necessarily crooks trying to prey on those who are already down. Infighting only weakens our cause.

There are thousands, millions, zillions of preachers and teachers of God’s Word that are not out to get you. They really love the Lord and have committed their lives to doing His work, spreading the gospel (that is, the Good News of Jesus Christ– Matthew 28:16-20), and are active servant leaders helping their communities. Please back up off of these, my sisters and brothers in Christ who are trying to do the right thing and making a great impact.


“Touch not my anointed ones; do my prophets no harm.”– 1 Chronicles 16:22 and Psalm 105:15

P.S.- If you want to quickly look up the above-mentioned scriptures or any others in your favorite Bible version, go to or your favorite online Bible resource. And if I’ve missed the mark, give me some food for thought–I don’t have all the answers.