2015 in Review and Ree-flections

OK, it’s that time again. Time to recap my life in 2015 with a few short posts.

Part 1 of 3: “Ree-flections” on 2015

3 of my FAVORITE MEMORIES in 2015, Which All Happened in July
– Our family trip across New England
– Dancing with the dance ministry at my church
– Reconnecting with lots of old friends in New York

 

2 THINGS THAT HAPPENED in 2015 THAT I’M GRATEFUL FOR
– Developing a new friendship with someone at church with whom I have a lot in common
– More sister time. I saw my sister practically every month this year even though we live 10 hours away from each other.

 

A HARD LESSON I LEARNED in 2015
Some “professionals” who you have trusted for years can still misrepresent themselves and take your money without a second thought. As soon as you find that someone is shady (in any situation), you must let go of what you thought of them and keep it moving!

 

5 THINGS I DID in 2015 I’M VERY PROUD OF
– Created (and soon to launch) my first online course (about self-publishing–check out the details here)
– Launched my weekly podcast, Kickin’ it with Daree
– Paid off my elective surgery without interest (I love beating the financial companies!)
Completing a 15K in my hometown, where I hadn’t been in 12 years
– After setting this goal sometime in 2008, I finally became a Professional Certified Life Coach
– Saving money for an emergency fund
Tomorrow I will recap my racing accomplishments this year. Care to share your life changing) memories from this year? What are you most proud of, and what did you learn?
If you’d like some help doing your own self-reflections, check out my new, free workbook below.

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Accepting the Apology You Never Got

Sometimes it’s hard to say “I was wrong” or “I need help.” Why? Because saying either of these phrases requires humility.

Pride is an ingredient in every quarrel. It stirs up conflict and divides people. Humility, by contrast, heals.

Guard against pride. If you find yourself constantly arguing, examine your life for pride. Be open to the advice of others, ask for help when you need it, and be willing to admit your mistakes.

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Check out a new episode of the podcast, where we cover…

• How to recognize the language of apology you expect and respond to best
• How to effectively confront someone who has offended you
• How to recognize when you have not done your own work
• How to let go and move on after the offense, even if the offender does not apologize

 

Ready to listen to this episode of Kickin’ It with Daree?

Kickin’ It with Daree – New Podcast Launches Next Week!

I’m excited to announce my big launch for this year–and this time, it’s not another book. I love writing, but I can only focus on one big project at a time.  I’m switching gears to use my often-praised chops to bring you another phase of my personal development brand.

It’s a new talk show, delivered as a podcast.

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So many friends (as well as people I’ve only met once), have complimented me on my voice and recommended that I do voiceovers, record audio books, or get into radio. I have researched all of the above, but podcasting seems to be the thing for me right now.  It’s pretty inexpensive compared to the others, without a lot of gatekeepers blocking me hoops to jump through to get started.

Some of the topics I cover on the new Kickin’ It with Daree podcast are things I’ve discussed before on this blog.  Show topics will center around life coaching, personal development, personal growth, faith and the fun, candor & silliness that is me.

My aim is not only to expand and build on the platform that I began with my books, but also to will offer practical resources and real advice that will inspire listeners to improve relationships, develop themselves, and better handle everyday situations and stressors. Each episode will provide food for thought, tips and strategies they can implement to foster personal growth and development, and live a life with more fulfillment.

You want to know what’s really awesome?  I’m launching the show on August 4, 2015 with not one, not two, but three full episodes, each featuring full guest interviews! I recorded nine episodes so far this summer, so I’d have plenty of content for my loyal and new followers.  Once the show launches, I’ll post show notes here in brief, and on my website in full.  Once the show launches, the best way to ensure that you don’t miss an episode is to use your player or app of choice from iTunes, Soundcloud and Stitcher, search for Kickin’ It with Daree, and Subscribe.

2014: The Year in Review

This week’s posts are loosely based on a format from my graphic designer and a fellow runblogger I discovered last year who makes a nice infographic of her yearly race statistics.

Part 1 of 3: “Ree-flections” on 2014

One of many classic shots from my photo shoot this year with Simply Zee Imagery in Marietta, GA.
One of many classic shots this year with Simply Zee Imagery in Marietta, GA.

 

3 of my FAVORITE MEMORIES in 2014
– My photo shoot (Feb)

– Meeting folks at Sweetie Pies and visiting the Christmas Story museum in the same weekend (Oct)

 

3 THINGS THAT HAPPENED in 2014 THAT I’M GRATEFUL FOR
– Getting to travel to almost every place I had planned at the end of 2013 (including NOLA and Boston)
– NOT living from paycheck to paycheck (for the first time since 2011)

 

1 HARD LESSON I LEARNED in 2014
Accepting that people are who they are and that they will probably not change.  (I already knew this but a couple of situations reminded me that no matter how you treat someone, you must A) allow adequate time to get to know someone before letting them in emotionally, and B) accept how they behave and treat you at face value.)

 

3 THINGS I DID in 2014 I’M PROUD OF
– Paid off the first furniture set I ever purchased, interest free (March)


Tomorrow I will recap my racing accomplishments this year.
What positive (or life changing) memories do you have from this year?

What I Learned From: “Going Natural” (And Why I’m Back on the Creamy Crack)

I don’t regret “going natural” 4 years ago. I mainly did so to teach my daughter to love herself as she is.

She’s worn her natural hair all her life. I started “relaxing” since about age 13 for manageability, independent styling (Mom was no longer braiding me as a teen), and to fit in.  20+ years later, I bravely did the big chop.

When I took my daughter to the airport to visit other family members for the summer of ’13, she sternly told me not to cut my hair while she was gone. “You should let it grow back and get long the way it used to be,” she said.

She missed my long straight hair, and honestly, I did too.

Continue reading “What I Learned From: “Going Natural” (And Why I’m Back on the Creamy Crack)”

What I Learned From: Doing Weight Watchers for 2 Years (And Why I Stopped)

I am a “Lifetime” member at Weight Watchers, but I don’t know if I’ll ever go to another meeting again.

Every month when it was time to weigh in, I would fast and starve myself while still running outside in Hotlanta, killing myself to keep within 2 lbs of my unrealistic goal. I didn’t even make it to my meeting in June, so I had to pay $14 in July (if you weigh in successfully, your meetings are free that month).

I am still running and working out every week, but not always tracking every meal as I was taught.  Even when I abstain from sugar and other carbs, I don’t lose pounds because I am gaining muscle.  I measure my maintenance success mostly by how my clothes fit and my consistency with workouts and eating a cleaner diet. I recently started going to a chiropractor and during my consultation, he measured my body fat. I like that better than the BMI measurement. But I still have work to do.

I like the accountability of meetings, but otherwise don’t need them. WW recycles the same topics so with 2 years in, there was nothing new to discuss. Plus, for reasons unknown, all my original WW buddies no longer attend the meetings either.

 

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So after struggling for a year to maintain the required 2-lb allowance from my goal weight, I guess you can say I gave up.

Quitting and giving up are not synonymous. I think giving up is the right thing for me to do in this situation–not stressing every month about an ideal that was not based on reality.

This Week: Countdown Deal for What’s Wrong With Me?

Do you know of a young lady transitioning from middle school to high school, or already in high school? My memoir for girls, What’s Wrong With Me?, makes a great gift for her.  And this week, you can take advantage of my Countdown deal on Amazon.com.

From May 6-10, 2014, you can get the Kindle version at a discounted price that gradually goes back to regular price at the end of the week (it will start at  $0.99 on May 6). And you can always buy the print version on Amazon and get the Kindle version for only $1.99 when purchased in the same transaction. Get one for yourself and give the other as a gift!

This deal is also featured on http://ereadergirl.com and other ebook sites–this week only!

NOTE: Kindle books can be read on iPhone, iPad, PC, Mac, Android, BlackBerry, and Windows Phone 7, and through the Kindle Cloud Reader app.

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Are You Strong Enough?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.)



QUESTION 14- Am I Strong Enough?


I’ve endured a lot of things in my 30’s so far.  People say I’m strong, but at times I don’t feel strong.  It’s the God in me that helps me get through.  I don’t need to question my strength because I can rely on His.

What does it mean to be strong?

 

Being strong means knowing when to ask for help, and not being afraid to.

Being strong means facing your fears–doing it afraid.

Being strong means moving forward  based on faith and wisdom even when circumstances tell you otherwise.

Being strong means doing what’s right even when everyone else tells you you’re wrong (or you can get away with it).

Being strong means speaking your truth even if it’s not popular with the masses.


Being strong means that you remain kind and not allow evil people or ugly situations get the best of you.

Being strong means walking in your purpose.

And now, a few fitting words from a devotional I just read:
A person who is truly confident of his or her strength does not need to parade it. A truly brave person does not look for chances to prove it. A resourceful woman can find a way out of a fight. A man of endurance will avoid retaliating. Foolish people find it impossible to avoid strife.
Men and women of character can. What kind of person are you?

 

How do you show your strength?

What Are You Afraid Of?


(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.) 



QUESTION 11- What Am I Afraid Of?

In the past I’ve been afraid of being left out from what was going on with the cool kids. Lately I’ve been afraid that I’m missing out on enjoying my life, if I just base it off of emails of happenings and various Facebook posts.  It’s one of the reasons why so many people get hooked on social media. “FOMO.”

 

But the fear I’m going to address here is literal. You may want to ask yourself this question two or three times each time you answer it to get to the root.

 

What are you afraid of?
But then what are you really afraid of?

 

I love families and I love mine. I don’t want to lose my parents–not so much afraid, because I know someday it will happen–its just that I’m not looking forward to living without them.

 

I hope that I will not be alone when my daughter grows up– there’s no guarantee that I’ll get married again.

 

I’ve been afraid that the one that I care about so much doesn’t really care much about me.

 

Sometimes I think I’m afraid of success. Other times I’m afraid that I’m not as good as others that do what I do. Or that I’ll be overlooked even if I am.


Now that you know what you are afraid of, what are you going to do about it?

 

Are You Helpful?

(Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article in O magazine.)
QUESTION 10- Am I Helpful?
 
Hold me (hand). I am your Care, Safety, Strength, Love, and Help
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People always ask me things like, how can I break into technical writing [like me]? Or about my writing process. How I got started homeschooling. How I get my nails to grow so long. What they should know LASIK surgery process and if I’d do it again. How I lost so much weight. How long/fast/much do I run.
 
Often, I will direct them to this blog, because I’m so descriptive in my writing. But everyone doesn’t want to read. Lucky them, because I love to talk, too
 
Sometimes though, I get in my introverted moods where I just don’t want to talk to anyone. Or the “help” being requested is really someone who is capable, but lazy, and wants me to do their work for them. Or, it could be that I feel like I’m repeating myself way too much.
 
I love to learn. I love information, but it’s everywhere. A simple Google search can become overwhelming when you start looking through the results. So I see why it’s easier sometimes to just ask someone who has already done something you’re interested in or trying to do. So don’t be offended if I send you here. It’s just easier for me to save a little energy that way. Overall, I think I’m pretty helpful and I don’t hoard knowledge.
Do you have a hard time asking for–or giving–help when needed?