Catching Up: My Life in October 2012

I’m so happy to see November again… it’s the best month of the year!  I’m thankful that October 2012 was the least emotionally traumatic month for me, probably in over a year. There are still so many things I want to do, but something I am learning to do right now is allow God’s grace to flow in my life and just be patient with myself.

I Refuse To Give Up On Myself
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Getting to the Next Level? I Don’t Need It

I love Tyler Perry’s new video on his Facebook page about how to be successful. In essence, he talks about

Photo Credit: Christian Beirle Gonzalez

focusing on one thing at a time and believing in it, and seeing it through. He uses the metaphor of planting a seed, saying that you can’t spray water across the field and expect much of it to get to the one seed you planted. But if you continually plant and water in the right area, God will give the increase. I love it!

This is why I don’t get excited when people give me their (often unsolicited) advice for what I should do as a new author. I’ve heard that I should now:

– start a nonprofit
– team up with a local “megachurch”
– do a book tour all over the country
– get a show on blogtalkradio

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Teachings from the Temple of Tyrese

Tyrese Gibson's book cover

Yesterday, Spelman College and Written Magazine  presented “A Conversation with Tyrese” at the Sister’s Chapel at Spelman. Written’s publisher Michelle Gipson conducted the 80-min interview with singer/actor Tyrese Gibson about his new book, How to Get Out of Your Own Way (Grand Central Publishing, 2011), a memoir/self-help book. Journalist and CNN commentator Jack Johnson joined them onstage as well. Gipson encouraged audience members (Spelman students, grown women, and a few men!) to submit questions on notecards or tweet with the hashtag #WritMagAskTyrese.
Note: This post is written almost like a full-featured magazine article, except that I’ve also included my own thoughts and explanations to provide context. So it’s long, even though I left some things out. . . but I think you’ll enjoy it regardless.

The Entrance

It’s no surprise that when the tall, dark, and dapper 32-year-old Tyrese appeared onstage, the girls went crazy with screams and frantic camera-phone picture-taking. It took awhile before he could speak–partly because of the love from the crowd, and partly because he was nervous. But after his initial “Hello,” the girls (and Tyrese) were able to collect themselves, and I was able to take more than three pages of notes to capture teachings from “The Temple of Tyrese,” as Jet magazine called it in their April 4, 2011 issue.
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Hello and Farewell to the Final Toastmasters International Region 8 Conference

I had the opportunity and pleasure of attending my first regional conference for Toastmasters this past weekend (June 26 and 27, 2009). Here are my reflections (a rundown that is long but not exhaustive).

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No One Can Stop You, But You

It’s easy to get caught up in the mundane, routine activities of life and forget about our dreams or passions, or even just let them take a back seat to the pressing matters of each day.

I would encourage people not to think on thoughts such as “What if I can’t do it?”, but rather, “What happens if I DON’T?” I read a great quote recently that said, If you’re going to do it, don’t worry, and if you’re going worry, don’t do it (Deena Katz).  So many people wonder what will happen if they step out on something and fail, but what about if they never try? What if they stay stuck in the same dead-end situation for another 5 or 10 years? To me, THAT is what’s scary.

In the past 4 years that I’ve been living in VA, I have overcome several obstacles and fears. Those fears could have paralyzed me and stopped me from becoming the more confident young lady that I am today. I am free from all the mess I’ve been through. I will always remember situations and the scars are there. Now I wear my scars with honor, knowing that it can’t stop me from my destiny—the only one who can stop me is me! I share my story whenever I believe it can help someone—to to brag on myself, but to brag on what God has done for me, and encourage others.

No one can get in your way if you are staying true to yourself and following your purpose—no one but you.