What I Learned From: Y Membership (And Why I Switched to Another Gym)

I initially joined the local YMCA during the summer that my daughter was turning 5, to get a discount on summer camp.  The main draw maintaining my Y membership over the years since then has been TurboKick classes.  I loved the combo of hip hop music and moves mixed with martial arts-infused flair. Once I became certified to teach classes myself (and eligible to purchase my own TK rounds), ironically I started slowly falling out of love with it.

Don’t get me wrong–I still enjoy my old-school rounds, but gradually, I became less attached to it than ever before (from 2008 to present).

Source: In Montgomery

During the past several months, I still enjoyed my group exercise classes at the Y, but couldn’t easily fit some of the classes into my schedule. I also found myself wanting to do different things in the classes and be more independent with the exercises chosen.  For example, one instructor in particular, although very fit and good at instruction, seemed to always want to do the same exact warm-up and same leg and butt exercises when she taught every Wednesday.  It got on my nerves after awhile, especially when I thought about all the other moves we could be doing.

Yes, I’m a certified instructor, but I really don’t want to teach classes. I guess it was more like a form of (expensive) self-enrichment. Continue reading “What I Learned From: Y Membership (And Why I Switched to Another Gym)”


Frenemies No More: How to Deal with Friends Who Hurt You

Friends don’t hurt friends—or at least the way it should be.

Everyone has a story or two about getting stabbed in the back. What about friends who just suddenly stop all communication with you, and give you no reason? Betrayal and abandonment are hard to forgive and forget. You almost expect it if you’re on the dating scene, but when it comes to friendship, we take it harder.

Dr. Jan Yager’s book, When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon or Wound You talks about the realities of friendship gone wrong. How do you deal with toxic friends? Why do some people have a pattern of picking the wrong friends, and end up getting used time after time? How can we choose positive, healthy friendships that enrich our lives, and spot them early on, weeding out the “frenemies” waiting to happen?

According to Dr. Yager, it starts with us. If you don’t respect yourself, you will allow others to treat you badly. For an in-depth look at some highlights offered in this book, chapter by chapter, read on. (Warning: This article is NOT a quick read, but you’ll find a lot of insights.)

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