I just had to post some notes from Shanel Cooper-Sykes‘ Ustream on Valentines night (she will post it to her YouTube channel later). She gave “10 Steps to Become a Amazing Woman That Every Man Wants,” and I couldn’t agree more!:
1- Cleanse your past. Write down your past lovers, think about your childhood hurts. Get it out and then get over it. Let go of the baggage.
2- Love thyself. Build a relationship with God. Be still and quiet your life down a little bit. Begin to seek God and you will build yourself and your confidence. Talk to yourself and tell yourself the right things. Use affirmations. Speak life. Explore your likes. Fall in love with yourself before you expect someone else to. Teach people how to love you. Exude love and it will radiate back to you.
3- Confidence. 97 of 100 men she surveyed said that the sexiest thing about a woman was confidence. Lack of confidence comes from not knowing what you can do. So learn what you can do– know yourself.
4- Substance. Get something in your mind– have something to talk about. Educate yourself and know what is going on in the world. Can you have a conversation with a man without talking about sex or something of substance? Get some business. There’s nothing worse than a person that has nothing to do! Travel, expand yourself, do something to grow!
Get some substance.
For Valentine’s Day, I got some chocolate–maybe not the kind I wanted… just kidding. My sister always hooks me up with chocolate and/or flowers. She has a sweet side to her and I can feel the love. 🙂
I went to a couple of “Cupid is Stupid” events this past weekend, but on the real, I’m pretty content with being single these days. I hope you don’t feel left out of the V-Day hoopla if you’re single. It’s all good baby!
I just started a channel on YouTube, and in the video below I talk about singleness, whether another person can really “complete” you, and dealing with feelings of discontentment and heartbreak. I’m surprised by how much I said since I had a little tiny note in front of me (I had to make a “Part 2”!). Anyhoo, if you like the content, subscribe to my YouTube channel (and this blog via RSS or email (look to the right for signup)! Thanks.