Accepting the Apology You Never Got

Sometimes it’s hard to say “I was wrong” or “I need help.” Why? Because saying either of these phrases requires humility.

Pride is an ingredient in every quarrel. It stirs up conflict and divides people. Humility, by contrast, heals.

Guard against pride. If you find yourself constantly arguing, examine your life for pride. Be open to the advice of others, ask for help when you need it, and be willing to admit your mistakes.

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Check out a new episode of the podcast, where we cover…

• How to recognize the language of apology you expect and respond to best
• How to effectively confront someone who has offended you
• How to recognize when you have not done your own work
• How to let go and move on after the offense, even if the offender does not apologize

 

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Can We Hang Out? How to Cultivate Meaningful Friendships as an Adult

How to create and cultivate friendships as an adult?

With so many demands on our time, including jobs, school and family obligations, sometimes we don’t get to spend time with our friends as much as we’d like. Months and even years can go by without seeing friends who live in the same area. In an age of social media and technology, we can easily become more distant and disconnected.HangingOut-216H

 

Check out a new episode of the podcast, where we cover…

• The four different levels/categories of friendship, and how to distinguish between them
• How to let go of a friendship you have outgrown
• How to cultivate existing friendships that you want to maintain
• The best way to reach out to someone new (or an acquaintance) to pursue or deepen a friendship

 

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Kickin’ It with Daree – New Podcast Launches Next Week!

I’m excited to announce my big launch for this year–and this time, it’s not another book. I love writing, but I can only focus on one big project at a time.  I’m switching gears to use my often-praised chops to bring you another phase of my personal development brand.

It’s a new talk show, delivered as a podcast.

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So many friends (as well as people I’ve only met once), have complimented me on my voice and recommended that I do voiceovers, record audio books, or get into radio. I have researched all of the above, but podcasting seems to be the thing for me right now.  It’s pretty inexpensive compared to the others, without a lot of gatekeepers blocking me hoops to jump through to get started.

Some of the topics I cover on the new Kickin’ It with Daree podcast are things I’ve discussed before on this blog.  Show topics will center around life coaching, personal development, personal growth, faith and the fun, candor & silliness that is me.

My aim is not only to expand and build on the platform that I began with my books, but also to will offer practical resources and real advice that will inspire listeners to improve relationships, develop themselves, and better handle everyday situations and stressors. Each episode will provide food for thought, tips and strategies they can implement to foster personal growth and development, and live a life with more fulfillment.

You want to know what’s really awesome?  I’m launching the show on August 4, 2015 with not one, not two, but three full episodes, each featuring full guest interviews! I recorded nine episodes so far this summer, so I’d have plenty of content for my loyal and new followers.  Once the show launches, I’ll post show notes here in brief, and on my website in full.  Once the show launches, the best way to ensure that you don’t miss an episode is to use your player or app of choice from iTunes, Soundcloud and Stitcher, search for Kickin’ It with Daree, and Subscribe.

My Homecoming Race – Boilermaker 15K Recap

Downtown Utica

Downtown Utica

20150711_163340I grew up in Utica, NY from age 3, and not fond of it overall. In spite of this, I decided last year that I wanted to go back to do the Boilermaker 15K. I haven’t been to Utica since my daughter was a newborn 12 years ago.  My mom was my last family member to move South with us in 2004, so there’s been no compelling reason to go back.
The Boilermaker 15K is the biggest 15K in the world, and takes place on the second Sunday of July (July 13, 2015 is the 38th annual event).

 

Training and Prep

I started the Hal Higdon training plan at the top of May, simultaneously doing T25 Beta round for the first 5 weeks.  On July 4, I had nothing to do (I did the biggest 10K in the world last year, Atlanta’s Peachtree Road Race) and since it poured all morning, I decided to make it a rest day instead of my usual long run day.  I’ve never done more than 3 miles on a treadmill and didn’t want to then, either.  So I spent the entire morning reading race recaps to add to the hype I was feeling about coming back home to run a race I heard about all my life, but never cared until I became a runner.

New York Travels

In front of the Manhattan Bridge

In front of the Manhattan Bridge

A few days later, I flew to NYC to hang out and visit friends before heading to Utica for the big race weekend.  I had not seen these besties of mine in 9 and 18 years respectively!  And my visit meant that they got to reconnect too (they are mutual friends and each of them also have very young children.)

It was awesome to run in the Washington Heights neighborhood in Manhattan–I did a quickie shakeout run a couple of days before my race.  I would love to run in the park without crowds and street lights, so maybe next time I can plan better for that. (It was kinda cool to sleep in an apartment with a fire escape. I imagined I was in a real-life episode of Blue Bloods with Donnie Wahlberg.)  I don’t know if I’ll ever get to run a race in one of the five boroughs.  I prefer races under 10K anywhere, and when traveling, I like Saturday races better than Sunday–so we’ll see.

When I took the train to Utica, I spent some of that time editing a couple of my forthcoming episodes of my forthcoming podcast (next month!), Kickin’ It with Daree.  I’ll talk about that more in another post soon.

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2015: Looking Ahead

This blog is entering its 8th year (I started it in January 2007).  I usually write about goals and such between my birthday (in November) and the close of the year. This is Part 3 of 3 in my 2014 yearly review.

 

5 PLACES I WANT TO GO in 2015picjumbo.com_HNCK2304-40e
– NYC (I would have gone in October, but a race I scheduled there was cancelled)
– L.A. (to be on another talk show like Ellen, Wendy, Fallon or The REAL and be in the audience with my sister)
– EssenceFest*
– Puerto Rico* and/or Hawaii* (these have been on my list for years, as I’ve never done them)
– My hometown (I have not been to my hometown in 12 years, and there is a 15K race I want to do–it was even recommended as a go-to in Runner’s World magazine this month)

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2014 Race Stats

In Part 2 of my 2014 yearly review, I recap my second year of running. Although I ran less overall, I conquered more distances and volunteered more as well. Audiobooks were a great addition to my training, as I usually “lost” my group run members during long runs.

 

TOTAL RUNNING TIME– 70 hours, 14 minutes, 10 seconds (includes regular workouts, training and races)
TOTAL DISTANCE– 354.23 miles
MAX MONTH- January, 51.49
MIN MONTH- September, 10.02 miles (the month after finishing first Half)
RACES RAN– 11
RACES VOLUNTEERED FOR– 4 (HBCU, espirit de She, 13.1 Michelob, and Black Girls Run)
“AWAY” CITIES– 2 (Runner’s World Heartbreak Hill in Boston; Rock n Roll Half Marathon on Virginia Beach)
FEES PAID– $308 (5 of my 11 races were free with my track club membership)
NEW RUN SHOE: Saucony Ride 6 (purple), purchased in April
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Saucony Ride 6

Last year I ran all 5K races except for one 6K. This year most of my races were new and longer distances:
1- 1M (March)
3- 5K (April, Aug, Oct)
1- 4M (July 19)
1- 8K (Feb 22)
3- 10K (New Year’s Day, June 6 and July 4)
1- 15K (January 26)
1- Half (August 31)

My daughter and I wore these cute football race bibs in October

My daughter and I wore these cute football race bibs in October

FAVE BIB – Rise Up & Run (5K) with the Atlanta Falcons, October 18 (coincidentally, my bib number is also my hometown’s area code)

FAVE MEDAL – Peachtree Road Race (10K), July 4

The commemorative 2014 AJC Peachtree Road Race medal

The commemorative 2014 AJC Peachtree Road Race medal

 FAVE RACE APPAREL – Hot Chocolate (15K) pullover, January 26
Hot Chocolate 15K race packet

Hot Chocolate 15K race packet

I had some elective surgery that will keep me out of winter races now, but in the Spring, look out because I will be back on my feet! I have more “race trips” planned for 2015 including a 15K in my hometown (upstate NY in July), possibly one in Chicago, and A Christmas Story Run (Cleveland, in December).

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