OK, it’s that time again. Time to recap my life in 2015 with a few short posts.
Part 1 of 3: “Ree-flections” on 2015
OK, it’s that time again. Time to recap my life in 2015 with a few short posts.
Sometimes it’s hard to say “I was wrong” or “I need help.” Why? Because saying either of these phrases requires humility.
Pride is an ingredient in every quarrel. It stirs up conflict and divides people. Humility, by contrast, heals.
Guard against pride. If you find yourself constantly arguing, examine your life for pride. Be open to the advice of others, ask for help when you need it, and be willing to admit your mistakes.
• How to recognize the language of apology you expect and respond to best
• How to effectively confront someone who has offended you
• How to recognize when you have not done your own work
• How to let go and move on after the offense, even if the offender does not apologize
I’m excited to announce my big launch for this year–and this time, it’s not another book. I love writing, but I can only focus on one big project at a time. I’m switching gears to use my often-praised chops to bring you another phase of my personal development brand.
So many friends (as well as people I’ve only met once), have complimented me on my voice and recommended that I do voiceovers, record audio books, or get into radio. I have researched all of the above, but podcasting seems to be the thing for me right now. It’s pretty inexpensive compared to the others, without a lot of
gatekeepers blocking me hoops to jump through to get started.
Some of the topics I cover on the new Kickin’ It with Daree podcast are things I’ve discussed before on this blog. Show topics will center around life coaching, personal development, personal growth, faith and the fun, candor & silliness that is me.
My aim is not only to expand and build on the platform that I began with my books, but also to will offer practical resources and real advice that will inspire listeners to improve relationships, develop themselves, and better handle everyday situations and stressors. Each episode will provide food for thought, tips and strategies they can implement to foster personal growth and development, and live a life with more fulfillment.
You want to know what’s really awesome? I’m launching the show on August 4, 2015 with not one, not two, but three full episodes, each featuring full guest interviews! I recorded nine episodes so far this summer, so I’d have plenty of content for my loyal and new followers. Once the show launches, I’ll post show notes here in brief, and on my website in full. Once the show launches, the best way to ensure that you don’t miss an episode is to use your player or app of choice from iTunes, Soundcloud and Stitcher, search for Kickin’ It with Daree, and Subscribe.
– Meeting folks at Sweetie Pies and visiting the Christmas Story museum in the same weekend (Oct)
The launch of Ending the Blame Game was a success! I am so thankful for the support of my friends and colleagues in this event. A quick recap:
We had a deep and lively discussion about relationships, coparenting and fatherhood with our simultaneous live TweetChat.
We raffled off a t-shirt, a book, and a 30-day marketing package from The Survival Radio Network.
With so much positive feedback and requests to make this a series, I may hold events on a quarterly basis depending on interest. We need to keep the dialogue going. And we need more input from single fathers.
Remember last year when I almost met Wendy Williams at her Barnes & Noble book signing? They sold out of books and therefore I didn’t get a wristband. Well, they didn’t make the same mistake at La La Anthony’s book signing last night.
La La’s event was different because she didn’t address the audience or take questions. I didn’t have more than a few seconds with her to say anything. But I know I am going to enjoy her book (it’s about relationships and life lessons–two topics my books cover as well).
Speaking of my books, I wanted you to know that you can participate in my book launch even if you’re not at my party tomorrow.
I’m hosting a Twitter party, or what I like to call a “TweetChat” during the launch party tomorrow. You can follow along with our discussion on Twitter starting at March 29 at 5 pm EST by following me on Twitter (@DareeAllen), and include the hashtag #EndBlameGame in your comment. (The hashtag keeps our conversation “together” even if you do not follow me.)
For example, I’ll post a question like this: “Q1: Why is it that…. #EndBlameGame”
To respond, you’d type: “A1: I think it’s because… #EndBlameGame”
To keep up with the conversation and read others responses, simply search for this hashtag in Twitter.
Everyone at the party will be posting their pictures using this hashtag as well, so it’s like a digital archive of the event. I can’t wait!
I’ve talked about it in many posts this past year, and I’m so happy to now announce that my new book is finally here! It was literally a labor of love.
Continue reading here.
These days, blended families are becoming the new normal. A woman, married or not, may live with a man and children where the children are a product of a previous relationship.
Some people manage it well. I remember reading in Vanessa Williams book that she has a big Thanksgiving dinner every year with all her ex-husbands and children–and it’s not awkward!
In this clip, former NFL player Deion Sanders has lunch with Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds. They talk about their children and their mutual respect for each other and their common denominator, Tracey Edmonds (Deion’s girlfriend and Babyface’s ex-wife and mother of their children).
But sometimes things don’t go quite as smoothly. Continue reading here.
I wanted to take advantage of my mom time off but I did spend a couple of days being mom when I went to Virginia to celebrate my daughter’s 10th birthday with her. She was also reunited with her father on her special day (whom we haven’t seen in 18 months) and her adult brother whom I’ve known about ever since I met her father but have never met before!
Of the 15 reunions I had this month, 6 of them were in town. 2 of the in- town reunions were with people who were traveling to Atlanta and happened to tell me they were coming. That included a friend I have not seen since then since we graduated 19 years ago– we went to school together from kindergarten all the way through 12th grade! (Unfortunately my cousin came here the same weekend that I went to Virginia, so I couldn’t see her.)
I completed my goal of running at least 60 miles this month. I decided to start running more in the mornings so that I can beat the sun, high temps and humidity that defines summer in Hotlanta. Getting up while it’s still dark is definitely a sacrifice because I work from home, but knowing I’ve done a hard workout early and got that out of the way is worth it. However, I ran my fastest and longest runs when it was over 90 degrees– so go figure. I now do a run long every weekend (at least 5 miles) and recover well.
3 short months ago when I started running, I was afraid. I considered the average 5K/ 3 mile route to be a scary distance, and I’d modify the route or turn around a lot sooner than everyone else in my running group. Now I’m when I finish 3- or 4-mile runs, I feel like I could keep going even though it’s over. I think, “That’s it? I’m just getting started.” It’s not because the runs get easier, or that I’m that much faster than before. I must be getting stronger. So if you’re new like me and you don’t think you’re where you’re want to be with this running thing, don’t worry–just stick with it and for sure, running will stick with you.
In other news, editing is now complete for my new book and the layout phase has begun. I also got a new phone–the Samsung Galaxy S4.
I think I want to take one more short trip in August before baby girl comes home. Any suggestions?
This post is comprised of my notes from Chalene Johnson’s “Being Unstoppable” presentation at Camp Do More on June 18, 2013, at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas. [Note that some of my commentary is in brackets.]
Your purpose has a lot to do with your struggle. You’re the only one who can start/stop your progress.
I never say I hate myself–that’s talking about God’s creation.
You can’t love yourself until you love your story. In other words, make peace with your past. Do you ever respect someone LESS when you hear their story? So why are you afraid to tell yours? Don’t be ashamed of it or afraid to tell people where you’ve been.