Are You With the Right Person?

Throughout the month, I’m blogging 20 questions from this month’s feature article on O magazine.  Question 3- Am I With the Right Person? I was on the Chat Atlanta show a few weeks ago (click here to listen) and one of the things a panelists said is that a lot of people suffer in their

My So-Called Single Life, Part 2

This post is a continuation from Part 1, in honor of Unmarried and Single Americans Week. I wrote this last year, but it is previously unpublished. I’ve experienced a relationship since then, and no longer agree with some of the sentiments here, but it’s still good work and may invite your own reflection and introspection.

My So-Called Single Life, Part 1

In honor of Unmarried and Single Americans Week (Sept. 16-22, 2012), I’d like to talk about a few “singleness” topics this week and share some more of my dating stories and personal musings on singleness. I’ve previously discussed my opinion that there’s nothing wrong with being single, but until about two weeks ago, I spent

Give Him a Chance, or Let Him Pass You By?

There are many opinions among singles about who should make the first move: should the man approach a woman first, or is it ok for a woman to express interest first? I believe the answer lies in not WHO, but HOW. I am very proud of my friend, author and filmmaker Tomeka Winborne, who just released her

Single (Ladies) in the City

VH-1 is premiering a new show called “Single Ladies” with LisaRaye and Stacey Dash, about a few single women living in Atlanta (think: a Black version of Sex in the City). I think I know a thing or two about that. Instead of getting into the (de)merits of the show (at least from the snippets

You Can’t Talk to Men Like You Talk to Your Girls

A friend invited me to attend a WATTS meeting (Women Aspiring Together To Succeed) in Snellville, GA on Valentine’s Eve.  The meeting’s theme was “Unraveling the Mysteries of Men & Women in Relationships.” Plenty of men and women attended, and I felt very comfortable and enjoyed myself. In this post, I’m sharing some highlights with

How to Become an Amazing, Desirable Woman

Shanel has done it again. I just had to post some notes from Shanel Cooper-Sykes‘ Ustream on Valentines night (she will post it to her YouTube channel later). She gave “10 Steps to Become a Amazing Woman That Every Man Wants,” and I couldn’t agree more!: 1- Cleanse your past. Write down your past lovers,

Want the Ring? Lose the Discount

I met Dr. Alduan Tartt a couple of weeks ago at an event that had a lot going on. We had small talk there, and then it got busy. Later, but a friend invited me to a more “settled” gathering that he hosted. There, he and another psychologist, Pam Thompson, talked to a group of

I’m Single… And Your Point Is?

“Why don’t you have a man—what’s wrong with you?” If I had a buck for every time someone asked me this, I wouldn’t need investments. A close second is, “Do you ever think you’ll get married again?” I’m a relatively young, attractive, well-educated, and self-sufficient divorced mother, writer, and speaker.  Many of my professional and

The Art of Letting Go

This blog discusses acceptance and overcoming offense.